The Never Ending Struggles of Adulthood

I woke up tired today which prompted me to pray for softness.
Of recent, i’ve found myself desperately praying and hoping for softness because life is hard, sometimes, unnecessarily hard. Starting my internship during this ASUU strike has been one of the most glaring realization that i am already morphing into being a young adult, and in this little time that I have experienced a little bit of adulthood, all i can say is Adulthood is hard, if you have the opportunity to remain a child forever, i beg you, please hold on to it.

One of the things i have come to detest about adulthood is the “never unending-ness of it”. Just when you are happy Monday is over, then the sad reality that another Monday comes in the next six days washes over you. It sometimes feels like I am stuck in a wild goose chase, everything feels the same, like an unending cycle….the same dates, months, the violence in Nigeria😭. I tried explaining it to someone but she looked at me like I was losing my mind so I thought to write it here.

To be honest, the older I get, the more respect I have for parents because how?!!! Imagine working so hard all through the month, surviving this madness called Lagos, after all the struggling, at the end of the month, you finally get your reward for capitalism, then your child comes and asks for the most random thing, and you have to do what they want afterall, they didn’t ask you they wanted to come to this world.The older you get, the more the saddening reality of adulthood starts to catch up on you.

I consider myself an hardworking young woman even though my Nigerian mother thinks otherwise. The thing is, I don’t believe in putting 100% effort into a prospect with a bleak future. I would rather not waste my time, and according to Yoruba parents, that is laziness. Let me break it down into bits for you. I am a huge planner, before I embark on a certain prospect, I would have had a book listing all the pros and cons as to why that venture would be a good fit for me, but I have come to the realization that no matter how you plan as a young person in Nigeria, the atmosphere or better still, the country itself finds a way to frustrate your plans. I have found myself in this exact spot in recent times, and the fear of yet another failed business has made me put a pause to anything involving businesses, which I have realized might make me come off as lazy.

There are many things that make up my life as a young Nigerian adult. Things like friendship. Friendship ehn😂😂😭omo, that topic would have it’s own Friday newsletter because adult friendships are weird and it requires alot of efforts. What of Finances? Lol! That one too should have it’s own newsletter and I would probably title it “The Financial Struggles of a young Nigerian Woman” because the struggle is real. Then there is the hardship that comes with navigating relationships and amid all of this, you need to make enough time for yourself or else you are left behind. With Adulthood, there is literally no break. It’s like you are happy you tackled one issue, and you decided to rest in honour of tackling that issue, another problem runs up on you like it couldn’t wait to meet you.

You might be wondering why I am writing all of this today. To be honest, i am not the type that likes to complain or rant, I am more of the “it has happened, let me cry and think of what to do” kind of person. If you are going through something similar, I want you to know you are not weird and neither are you losing your mind. Adulthood comes with it’s numerous problems. At the end of the day, you just have to live with the hope that things would get better. Tomorrow is Saturday, I hope you forget all about how stressful adulthood is, and do something nice for yourself because you deserve it and also don’t forget to get your PVC, you deserve to live in a country that works.❤

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